"Safe? Who said anything about safe? 'Course he isnt' safe, but he is good" - C.S Lewis
Nice guys bore the hell out of me! Polite men; the kind that will always say and do the "right" things, aaargh! Pushovers! they make assertive girls like me seem like bullies! Don't get me wrong, I've always been the kind a girl that loves gentlemen. I love it when a man opens the door for me or offer to carry something for me even though I am more than capable of carrying it myself; it makes me feel like I'm being... honored or something But since when is a gentlemen and a nice guy one in the same thing?
Is it possible for a man to be chilvarious and unsafe at the same time? Because it seems that society says that he can't be. If he's militant then he's not a gentleman he's a bully and nobody likes a bully. But I say give me the militant man! give me the guy that's confrontational when necessary, these are the unsafe men, I think. They draw you into a place that makes the hairs on the back of your neck stand up; you feel like you are in the presence of something bigger than you. But like CS Lewis says; he may not be safe, but he is good. This is the nature of God. the bible says that we are created in his image. John Eldridge suggests that the image referred to is soulful and not physical so a man reflects God in his soulful strength. God is tender and loving yes; that is where the woman is made in his image, but the man is fierce and strong Just as God is also.I love that! That just because we are in search of a man of God, we are not settling for meek pushover men.
Here's to all you guys out there who are wild at heart; I trust that you do not only exist in my own personal Eutopia!