Thursday, July 22, 2010

Speaking Of Which....

Speaking of  American talk shows, I loooooove the Ellen Degeneres Show!

While other shows like Oprah teach you how to love yourself  by focussing on all the stuff you hate about yourself , Ellen is like, " forget about all that! let's dance and laugh and enjoy!" I mean, a few weeks ago, during her mother's day show, she had a pregnant lady doing the booty hop on stage! Can you imagine that happening on Oprah? I  sure can't! even the guests on her show seem to be less conscious of themselves and their "image", it's all about them as people (or I'm just seriously  brainwashed and I need help! that is a possibility!)

I've come to believe that life's too short to be afraid or stressed or any of that negative stuff. We ( mostly women) spend too much time poking at our love-handles, trying to excercise the weight off and finding the right jean cut that will create a better silhouette; it's ridiculous! A friend of mine once said to me that we are at our best looking right now, so why not enjoy our bodies? Ok, granted, my friend is slender and diets and other such things are a foreign concept to her, but she had a point.Now don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with excersising and eating correctly, but don't let it steal your joy! If it makes you feel dispondent about yourself, then there is a problem.

I there's one thing I take away from Ellen, it is that, there is too much sadness in the world for me to be wearing myself down with silly things like my weight. so  in the words of Ellen;!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Lazy Sunday Afternoon

I have developed a Sunday afternoon ritual which I'm really  enjoying. Every Sunday, when I get back from church and  lunch and dishes are out of the way, I grab my sleeping bag turned throw blanket, lie on the couch in front of the TV,  and choose a channel that will provide the best background snooze noise. Yesterday, a rerun of  a number of "Late Night with David Letterman" episodes won the  channel contest! I enjoy this show though Letterman can be a bit arrogant. Sometimes his show is monotone enough to sing me to sleep (but then again when you're used to the Ellen show, any other talk show puts you to sleep!)

Before I drifted off to sleep, I caught an interview David did with Miley Cyrus. During their dialogue, I kept thinking to myself, "Myself, this kid is soooo annoying!" I was this close to changing the channel! This wasn't the first time I had watched an interview with her and it's not the first time  this thought has crossed my mind during these interviews. It was, however, the first time I asked myself why it is that I dislike her so. That's when it hit me!

When Ellen is introducing kids that are doing amazing things at their ages, she always says something like,      " When I was that age, I made friends with mud." ( isn't she funny?!) Kids these days seem to have life figured out at a crazy young age. At 17, Mliley  appears  to have the career that she wants and all these life changing  things  figured out while I, at 25, am nowhere near where I thought I'd be back when I was 17. That's why she annoys me, I think. I think I envy people who are exactly where they want to be doing exactly what they want to be doing, because I am no where near there. It makes me wonder what it is that they're doing right, because I could use some pointers.

Yes, I know that celebrities try to maintain a perfect front for the public eye and we should not believe everything we watch on television. I also know that it is  very possible that I was high on sleep when this thought process began, but I do think that grown ups have a thing or 2 to learn  from this generation of inovative little-people-doing-big-things. They might be on to something.......

Friday, July 16, 2010

It's not how it looks!

OK, before I embark on my deep and meaningful thought, I have a confession; please don't laugh ok? I put pictures in my blog posts now because I've finally discovered how it's done! lol. That's right, when it comes to technology, I tend to be one (or two) steps behind. One might say that I'm a bit of a techonology retard, but I would like to think of it as laid back. I like to savor and enjoy all that technology has to offer me! I take my time with each new thing that I learn, while other people rush to learn new things all the time! Ok, back to the funkier, nicer-to-meet version of me!
Despite the fact that I don't like pink, I find that this is the picture that says the most about me. Many will argue that while I appear happy,confident and strong on the outside, I am soft, vulnerable and often insecure on the inside. But I think that that is the very thing that makes me more of a square than a white elephant (rare/unique) because I believe that all women are this way. It's like Kiera Knightley once said, (something like...) " Even skinny girls have fat days".  She's so right. Even though I am a good guitar player, there are days when I think to myself, "Myself, what the hell is that noise?!!" We may try to be superwoman, strong and indestructable on the outside, but the truth is that on the inside, we are a little less.I think that inner vulnerability and tenderness are some of the things that make us women. These are the things that evoke the need for men, be it our fathers, brothers, friends or lovers to want to take us in their arms and protect us and love us.

Deep down we all have an irresistable tenderness; we pump thick,warm,lumpy custard whether we care to admit it or not.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Say cheese!

Last night I went out with some friends for pizza in celebrating a birthday. As soon as we found our seats, in true Nolo fashion, I pulled out my camera to take some pictures which was accompanied by a chorus of 'oh, no not photos again Nolo!"

I can't help it ok! I must take pictures of the good things in my life, because when days are dark, I need those photos to remind myself of those good things and to remind myself that I will be happy again; it really helps lift my spirits. You see, the thing with difficult times is that you convince yourself that you have nothing good going for you and that you will never get out of that deep dark abyss. When you are at your lowest, truth becomes relative to the negative situation, but a trip down memory lane helps to affirm that your situation is temporary and though weeping may last for the night, joy comes in the morning (Ps 30:5)

So next time you're out with me, and I want to take a photo, just humour me ok? because,somewhere down the road, that picture may put the smile back on my face and help me hold my head high! oh, and happy birthday Mike!

Friday, July 2, 2010

Boys and Girls

I've always thought of myself as the kind of girl that had great friendships with members of the opposite sex. I mean, I have plenty of guy friends and so often these are more valuable to me than the female friendships I have.

I used to believe that it is possible for two people of the opposite sex to be in a friendship without any romantic implications.I don't see any harm in calling a guy you're friends with for long conversations or just hanging out with him. It's something that I do without realising that the the other person might take it the wrong way. So, you can imagine my suprise when I'm standing there with this person and he doesn't like me "like that". Somewhere in the middle of my trying to establish a perfectly platonic friendship, I am incorrectly labelled as romantically interested; what the hell?!

Now, I wonder about this friendship-with-men business; is it possible? Could it be that I send the wrong impression or is my behaviour misunderstood? Do I subconsciously have romantic interests that I myself don't even know about? *sigh* Your guess is as good as mine....